Oct. 8, 2026
Ride the Wave: A Raw Confession from the Mic
The concern for increasing the number of followers, authenticity, originality and creativity can drive a person to the edge. Watch this candid conversation about things that should matter in life.
An unfiltered solo episode where a host wrestles with authenticity, self-doubt, and the strange demands of followership while delivering theatrical, often profane, stream-of-consciousness reflections.
Between desert metaphors and a plea for real neighborhood connection, the speaker urges community, climate action, and honest storytelling while sharing the messy reality of DIY podcasting and being human on stage.
Escape the daily grind with two chaotic seniors who completely lack a filter as they dive into unhinged, outrageous topics guaranteed to clear your skin, cure your stress, and transport you to a better mood. Coming soon, Laugh Out Loud with Mari and John the podcast!
00:07 - Stand Out Boldly
01:20 - Finding Your Voice
03:28 - Beyond Politeness
06:34 - Small Steps, Big Change
10:05 - Building Community
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Stand out from the crowd. Be different.
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Be new. New. New. Be new.
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Something spectacular. Something they've never seen before. Be original.
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Be true to yourself.
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Make a splash.
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Be fresh.
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Ride, ride the wave. Ride the wave.
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That edge of the wave right in on it be right there at the forefront you know
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leading everything be new and fresh and just right there at the forefront just.
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It's hard to do,
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when all you can do is be yourself. I don't know what else to be,
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and yet I keep asking myself, are you interesting enough for this thing called
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followers, people to follow you?
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Oh man i just wanted to talk i just wanted to be me i'm a theatrical person,
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i like to be on stage and i love speaking i love speaking to people i love storytelling
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i am a narrator i am an orator I am an emcee.
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I want to speak.
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And I have found that at times, things that I say are received well.
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And almost even sometimes, dare I say, people say, Hey!
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That was kind of intelligent.
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Although it wasn't intelligent to come into this room without water,
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without any beverage whatsoever, I am dying of thirst.
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I am crossing the safari, the sand dunes.
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I am experiencing heat and dry.
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My throat, like cotton, like swallowing a hundred crackers with no water.
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Dry like the sand.
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About to cease in its ability to create tone, word, volume, to speak to people.
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People is people. People is people.
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I wish to come off as personable, friendly, likable.
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I feel as though I am more a pessimist, kind of bitchy, a snob, an elitist,
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detached, unaware, ignorant, vulgar.
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Vulgar okay let me say it let me just say it are you ready,
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here we go fuck,
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fuck,
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fuck,
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i don't feel better for saying that i'm just got to say that i don't i don't
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feel better i don't feel more energized i don't feel more wonderful i don't
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it didn't give me anything it it was loud it was a sensation it was,
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outrageous it was uh,
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barely palatable.
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Profanity though you know i don't know there's fuck there's shit there's bullshit,
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and then you say it and it changes who is allowed to watch,
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it changes who your voice gets to reach because you said fuck shit,
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ass.
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Focusing on that you realize is ignorant it has no bearing on the reality of
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life it's just a philosophy to argue over,
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by people who have too much time on their hands,
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Argue about the stuff Oh, you see? You see what happened?
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I wanted to say argue about the shit that matters But the genteel part of me
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was Argue about the things that matter, darling,
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Argue about the things that matter,
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argue about the shit that matters,
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that matters.
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Why do so few people have so much?
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Why are we ignoring not ignoring the steps we're taking our baby steps little
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baby steps when it comes to doing our part to make sure that the earth continues,
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and doesn't die under our watch,
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baby steps we're taking baby steps,
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in order for us to succeed at that you do realize life will have to change dramatically,
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for everyone especially those in metropolises cities large cities,
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life will need to change dramatically,
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it would become something,
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not what you're living right now and you guys can't even freaking deal with
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plugs for cars and i say you guys because,
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i don't drive i walk everywhere i've gotten to that point in my life where i
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just walk and if i can't walk to it then i don't want to be there.
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I focus on the people around me i've said this before and i'll say it again,
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I focus on the people around me, the people in my building, my apartment building.
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I get to know them. I have gotten to know them. I'm involved in their woes.
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I'm here as a support mechanism to let them know they're not alone.
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And yeah, it can be taxing, but it's also extraordinarily rewarding to.
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To feel like you're part of a community to know people that actually have your back as you have theirs,
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why aren't we doing this more often what's with the isolation what's with the
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not knowing anyone in your apartment building that has got to stop,
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get involved get to know when was nosy bad nosy,
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is the person who calls the police because margaret next door looked like she
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was struggling with that man
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through the kitchen window who was in her kitchen knocking her upside the head
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so i called the cops nosy saved margaret that day,
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since when did nosy become bad it's not nosy when you're paying attention to your neighbors.
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Just don't do it with judgment. You know what I'm saying?
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Don't watch them because you're looking for things you want to argue about,
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to be dissatisfied about, to critique.
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That's not being neighborly. Be neighborly.
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Everybody's coming with their own story. Some of them are wild,
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outrageous, unbelievable, terrifying.
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They're all coming with their own stories.
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Don't be afraid to get involved and get to know them.
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Give what you can and let them give what they can. Become a community, a family.
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Integrate your resources. Oh, what a scary concept.
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An apartment building where everybody shares. Oh.
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Well, we have to because we want change. And this allows us to not participate
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in that which is necessarily mass appeal, which is why I'm no good at this game.
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This podcast follower watch me game. I suck. I've been doing this for years.
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I've worked my butt off. I've worked my ass off to figure this out.
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I taught myself everything, how to put the podcast together,
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how to operate the cameras, the right microphones to buy, everything,
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everything, the amplifier, lighting. I just, oh, oh, lighting, shoot.
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Lighting. And God said, there's the lighting. It's too bright.
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It's not set correctly. Here we go.
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Here we go,
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and now it's set correctly.
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Oh, because I am just dismal looking. And somehow these lights make me look a little dismal.
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Not a lot dismal. Not at this, you know, at death's door.
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Sucks.
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Look at you. I'm a big fat boy. I don't know how much longer I got to live.
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Just trying,
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to do what I know I'm an emcee I'm an orator I'm a host I like to talk,
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I had fun bye.
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Stand out from the crowd. Be different.
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Be new. New. New. Be new.
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Something spectacular. Something they've never seen before. Be original.
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Be true to yourself.
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Make a splash.
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Be fresh.
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Ride, ride the wave. Ride the wave.
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That edge of the wave right in on it be right there at the forefront you know
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leading everything be new and fresh and just right there at the forefront just.
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It's hard to do,
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when all you can do is be yourself. I don't know what else to be,
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and yet I keep asking myself, are you interesting enough for this thing called
00:01:40.297 --> 00:01:44.237
followers, people to follow you?
00:01:48.621 --> 00:01:55.797
Oh man i just wanted to talk i just wanted to be me i'm a theatrical person,
00:01:56.799 --> 00:02:02.784
i like to be on stage and i love speaking i love speaking to people i love storytelling
00:02:03.104 --> 00:02:08.217
i am a narrator i am an orator I am an emcee.
00:02:08.617 --> 00:02:10.110
I want to speak.
00:02:10.621 --> 00:02:17.221
And I have found that at times, things that I say are received well.
00:02:17.691 --> 00:02:22.893
And almost even sometimes, dare I say, people say, Hey!
00:02:24.118 --> 00:02:25.998
That was kind of intelligent.
00:02:29.127 --> 00:02:32.366
Although it wasn't intelligent to come into this room without water,
00:02:32.599 --> 00:02:37.877
without any beverage whatsoever, I am dying of thirst.
00:02:38.897 --> 00:02:43.537
I am crossing the safari, the sand dunes.
00:02:45.219 --> 00:02:48.626
I am experiencing heat and dry.
00:02:48.975 --> 00:02:57.628
My throat, like cotton, like swallowing a hundred crackers with no water.
00:02:58.075 --> 00:02:59.957
Dry like the sand.
00:03:01.296 --> 00:03:14.706
About to cease in its ability to create tone, word, volume, to speak to people.
00:03:15.507 --> 00:03:18.978
People is people. People is people.
00:03:28.532 --> 00:03:35.585
I wish to come off as personable, friendly, likable.
00:03:36.723 --> 00:03:47.938
I feel as though I am more a pessimist, kind of bitchy, a snob, an elitist,
00:03:50.069 --> 00:03:57.198
detached, unaware, ignorant, vulgar.
00:04:00.546 --> 00:04:04.772
Vulgar okay let me say it let me just say it are you ready,
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here we go fuck,
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fuck,
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fuck,
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i don't feel better for saying that i'm just got to say that i don't i don't
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feel better i don't feel more energized i don't feel more wonderful i don't
00:04:28.808 --> 00:04:34.698
it didn't give me anything it it was loud it was a sensation it was,
00:04:36.113 --> 00:04:38.893
outrageous it was uh,
00:04:40.525 --> 00:04:42.011
barely palatable.
00:04:45.938 --> 00:04:56.545
Profanity though you know i don't know there's fuck there's shit there's bullshit,
00:04:58.989 --> 00:05:04.198
and then you say it and it changes who is allowed to watch,
00:05:06.054 --> 00:05:15.075
it changes who your voice gets to reach because you said fuck shit,
00:05:17.664 --> 00:05:18.145
ass.
00:05:27.608 --> 00:05:34.651
Focusing on that you realize is ignorant it has no bearing on the reality of
00:05:34.651 --> 00:05:38.718
life it's just a philosophy to argue over,
00:05:39.386 --> 00:05:43.792
by people who have too much time on their hands,
00:05:50.832 --> 00:05:54.466
Argue about the stuff Oh, you see? You see what happened?
00:05:54.733 --> 00:06:01.508
I wanted to say argue about the shit that matters But the genteel part of me
00:06:01.629 --> 00:06:04.549
was Argue about the things that matter, darling,
00:06:05.646 --> 00:06:09.872
Argue about the things that matter,
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argue about the shit that matters,
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that matters.
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Why do so few people have so much?
00:06:34.740 --> 00:06:42.290
Why are we ignoring not ignoring the steps we're taking our baby steps little
00:06:42.290 --> 00:06:48.140
baby steps when it comes to doing our part to make sure that the earth continues,
00:06:49.380 --> 00:06:52.341
and doesn't die under our watch,
00:06:55.893 --> 00:06:58.360
baby steps we're taking baby steps,
00:07:00.555 --> 00:07:06.203
in order for us to succeed at that you do realize life will have to change dramatically,
00:07:06.754 --> 00:07:14.829
for everyone especially those in metropolises cities large cities,
00:07:16.112 --> 00:07:19.055
life will need to change dramatically,
00:07:20.454 --> 00:07:21.830
it would become something,
00:07:23.328 --> 00:07:29.380
not what you're living right now and you guys can't even freaking deal with
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plugs for cars and i say you guys because,
00:07:34.206 --> 00:07:39.280
i don't drive i walk everywhere i've gotten to that point in my life where i
00:07:39.280 --> 00:07:43.871
just walk and if i can't walk to it then i don't want to be there.
00:07:47.585 --> 00:07:52.580
I focus on the people around me i've said this before and i'll say it again,
00:07:53.419 --> 00:07:58.557
I focus on the people around me, the people in my building, my apartment building.
00:07:59.097 --> 00:08:05.930
I get to know them. I have gotten to know them. I'm involved in their woes.
00:08:05.930 --> 00:08:10.515
I'm here as a support mechanism to let them know they're not alone.
00:08:11.566 --> 00:08:18.265
And yeah, it can be taxing, but it's also extraordinarily rewarding to.
00:08:20.703 --> 00:08:28.644
To feel like you're part of a community to know people that actually have your back as you have theirs,
00:08:30.293 --> 00:08:34.967
why aren't we doing this more often what's with the isolation what's with the
00:08:34.967 --> 00:08:39.488
not knowing anyone in your apartment building that has got to stop,
00:08:40.736 --> 00:08:47.178
get involved get to know when was nosy bad nosy,
00:08:48.537 --> 00:08:53.637
is the person who calls the police because margaret next door looked like she
00:08:53.637 --> 00:08:55.369
was struggling with that man
00:08:55.781 --> 00:09:00.518
through the kitchen window who was in her kitchen knocking her upside the head
00:09:00.756 --> 00:09:06.457
so i called the cops nosy saved margaret that day,
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since when did nosy become bad it's not nosy when you're paying attention to your neighbors.
00:09:14.421 --> 00:09:17.149
Just don't do it with judgment. You know what I'm saying?
00:09:18.276 --> 00:09:21.944
Don't watch them because you're looking for things you want to argue about,
00:09:22.188 --> 00:09:25.091
to be dissatisfied about, to critique.
00:09:26.402 --> 00:09:29.380
That's not being neighborly. Be neighborly.
00:09:31.987 --> 00:09:36.410
Everybody's coming with their own story. Some of them are wild,
00:09:36.666 --> 00:09:40.938
outrageous, unbelievable, terrifying.
00:09:41.292 --> 00:09:43.247
They're all coming with their own stories.
00:09:44.913 --> 00:09:48.147
Don't be afraid to get involved and get to know them.
00:09:48.675 --> 00:09:54.341
Give what you can and let them give what they can. Become a community, a family.
00:09:54.579 --> 00:09:58.410
Integrate your resources. Oh, what a scary concept.
00:09:58.723 --> 00:10:02.676
An apartment building where everybody shares. Oh.
00:10:06.241 --> 00:10:13.660
Well, we have to because we want change. And this allows us to not participate
00:10:14.002 --> 00:10:20.028
in that which is necessarily mass appeal, which is why I'm no good at this game.
00:10:20.713 --> 00:10:28.436
This podcast follower watch me game. I suck. I've been doing this for years.
00:10:29.016 --> 00:10:35.579
I've worked my butt off. I've worked my ass off to figure this out.
00:10:37.013 --> 00:10:40.116
I taught myself everything, how to put the podcast together,
00:10:40.116 --> 00:10:43.479
how to operate the cameras, the right microphones to buy, everything,
00:10:43.781 --> 00:10:49.469
everything, the amplifier, lighting. I just, oh, oh, lighting, shoot.
00:10:51.141 --> 00:10:57.300
Lighting. And God said, there's the lighting. It's too bright.
00:10:57.933 --> 00:11:00.116
It's not set correctly. Here we go.
00:11:02.774 --> 00:11:04.121
Here we go,
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and now it's set correctly.
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Oh, because I am just dismal looking. And somehow these lights make me look a little dismal.
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Not a lot dismal. Not at this, you know, at death's door.
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Sucks.
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Look at you. I'm a big fat boy. I don't know how much longer I got to live.
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Just trying,
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to do what I know I'm an emcee I'm an orator I'm a host I like to talk,
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I had fun bye.
